Beneficiary and Benefactor

first thing first, let me introduce these two adults' words. Beneficiary "The one who receives benefits", while on the left-wing, Benefactor means "The one who provides help in any sorted way in his domain". We all are well aware of these words, as till yesterday, either we are "giver" or "taker".

As we are the most notorious generation, we start using it very early, without even knowing to ourselves. You wanna know, in which domain. It is one of the most joyful, blindfolded, bilateral, unisex, enthusiastic words, i.e FRIENDSHIP. This is that car, whose driver, passenger are we and taking care, servicing is our responsibility. Disclaimer:- The above line, I said on the behalf of both sides.

I would like to thanks to biology, and its discoveries like genes. It helped me in writing my blog. Because the thing to which we get attracted as well as kicked back to ourselves is "nature". We defined our perspective based on the nature of a person standing in front of us. And "nature" got affected by biological, chemical, and environmental factors. We can easily characterize our friend based on his/her genes. which, I am going to do in this blog, I know it's impossible to cover all of them, but I try my best to wrap it up in brief.

Type 1: Evergreen

why?

As all the leaves of the evergreen tree remain greenish, similarly, they are those, who not only dextrous, but they are ambidextrous. Although they are scholars along with this, they had done all the vulgar things. Since childhood, they helped small kids to learn abusive words, the one who doesn't listen in maths exams, the one for whom we fought with the teacher for extra sheets, the one who helped us in the matter of girls. He is always a guy to whom, we can debit any dating advice, study advice, career advice, flavor advice. in a nutshell mystery box.

Type 2: Secret box

how come?

As I said, we are notorious, so we have done so many things and we can't keep them to ourselves, we all need one, to whom we can share our Dark secrets. They are such type of friends, who knows all our weak and weakest points, and they also know which nerve has to be pressed in an emergency situation whenever they want something to eat, "sometimes I feel, sharing is not caring". As science is always right, we can fill air into the balloon up to a limit, otherwise, it will blow off, similarly, their stomach got full with lots of information and they start pouring out, whenever they are in their exciting state, and then we have to stare at them, to indicate that "what the fuck are you doing?", then, not him, in fact, we have to cover that topic with a fake smiling face.

Type 3: Born Adult

For what reason?

They are those who born an adult and knows everything in advance. They had lost their virginity at that time when we haven't studied "what is reproduction?". "But you know what, the problem arises when they are your friends", at every point of the corner, at every street, during lunch/dinner/sleep, they always realize you, that you haven't achieved anything in life till yet. Because they fixed their target that, "he is my brother, and I won't let him go dry", their vibes are so strong so powerful, that you can't let it go, and due to their grace, you achieved, what they want."I hope you all understood what I want to say :)"

But, they are those people, who always stands in front of you like a wall. They are always there whenever you need them. They remain with you like a "brother from another mother". They are not a scholar, nor they give lectures, they just believe in, on the spot actions and they helped you to let go every fucking brian storming situation. But they can't be our "secret box" friend, as they are the most "harami" friends, they don't want to lose the opportunity to maltreat you.

Type 4: Hypocritical Friends

because of what?

They are those with a kind heart but their mouth is the root of all evil causes, camphor in the fire. They are double-faced, one for us and the other one for our family. They know all about us but they are so friendly when we are with them. The real problem occur when they arrived at your home, you both were talking, but as soon your mother arrived they become the bitterest enemy of yours. see, how smoothly they start the conversation, they used to say "what shobhit, what you were saying? where we have to go on the weekend? you were saying something, say, where we have to go on the weekend?". Now, this is such a dilemma situation for you, because if you remain silent, you are at risk, on the other hand, if you speak then also you at risk. Now, your mother will stare at you, and try to involve in conversation, and want to know everything from head to tail. After creating an interrogating environment, now he wants to take leave. "Wow, such a nice gesture of our hypocritical friends".

Talks remain talks, actions remain actions, but the conclusion is that they are our friends and we always forgive them no matter what. I heard, "once crack occurs in the mirror it never be the same again",  that humor line, I smash it on the face of my friend, when we had a fight, "you know what he said?", "he kicked me and said two, three influential abusive words", "with a very clear mind and smoothly, I took my punch line back and threw it away. "see, how simple/easier it is to do that". We all know, we need both hands to clap, in my case, he does not want to involve his hand in my clapping.

To run a bicycle we need to paddle it down, to fulfill our appetite we must have to eat something, for gaining a muscle you have to do exercises, to satisfy your thirst you need to drink water, similarly, it's our responsibility to maintain our friendship. mostly, we used to pass the buck to our partner/friends. We have to contribute equally then only things remain in an equilibrium state. I know, you all know this, but sometimes when our friends are doing everything for us, we become lazy or forget to add our contribution. For better understanding, I'll give a lethargic example,     

 Suppose, there are 3 friends, and they called themselves "best friends". But the problem is, out of 3, only 2 of them used to go home of 3rd one in the evening for talks, roaming here and there. This cycle remains for few months, then they realize that their 3rd partner didn't come to their houses not even on weekends because they are doing that, then they stopped going to his house.

what you think, where is the problem? that they stopped going to his house or they realized that something is missing in their friendship. Every small thing matters in friendship you realize or not but this is the bitterest truth of friendship. 

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