Amalgam

The time you went to a Grocery shop, there you bought moong dal(one of my fav), and when you came home, you found that the dal you bought was mixed with unwanted particles like with other dal or with tiny stones, In short, the dal you bought was amalgamated. Here notice one thing that the seller who has done mixing was elated but while on the buyer side, he/she was the one who faces consequences of that mixing or the buyer was the one who suffered. 

But in this blog, the one who is the buyer and the one who is the seller is we i.e ourselves. Here, I want to show you the apogee of the very tiny problem of human beings, although there are many big ones out there, nevertheless, I thought that would be a better way out. Here, I don't cheat like the grocery seller as he used to place a magnet under the weighing machine, I like to be unequivocal like our current ruling party☺️.

As always I framed my perceptions and put them in front of my readers via anecdote. Today, in this blog too, I used that method because I thought that, it is the only best way to represent anything, as we have encountered, that there were stories in movies, additionally in dramas also. Moreover, I would like to begin my blog with a tale too, so let's start.

"Frank" and "Dorian", were two great brothers. As we can easily suggest by the reflection of their name's meaning, that "Frank" was the younger one and "Dorian" was the elder one. Let me give you a brief introduction, Both belong to a middle-class family. As a regular kid they also used to fight for the TV remote, both used to say that mommy you love him most, mommy you made all his favorite dishes, mommy you fulfill all his wishes, etc. Not only in this century but in previous centuries also, elder brother remains elder brother by appearance, by face and most importantly by nature, and they know how to pick advantage of that, "Dorian" was well aware of that fact and he used to ordered "Frank" to untie his shoelaces, bring water for him, not to tell his secrets to anybody. But that magical powers didn't belong to "Frank", so he had no choice left just to follow his brother's order. "The bitter truth was", all the new clothes either school uniform or party wear clothes bought for "Dorian" but not for "Frank", "you know why?" because when "Frank" age becomes equal to "Dorian" present age, these clothes fit well to him, Hence, there is no need to buy another stock of clothes. 

As their age numbers are mounting year by year, they both have individual friend circles and both spend a sufficient amount of time with their companions. "Dorian" loves spending time with batchmates i.e he has become a night out sort of guy, who had acquired a label of itinerant. As they grew older, they had chosen their individual career fields and in this "Frank" had no choice left just to sit at home, and work from there, while "Dorian" got an opportunity to travel more and more which he wants actually. They both had started earning money, "Dorian" starts earning friends as well, "Frank" starts losing, just because of his daily schedule, the space between him and his friends starts escalating. Since then, "Frank" starts feeling lonely "not in that sort of way, you all started thinking i.e of depression type or jealousy type". After some time, "Frank" realized that we "Dorian" and "me", don't talk much, as because of our daily job schedule or because of a large friend circle of "Dorina". 

"Frank", wants to establish that childhood connection but it can't be possible because as we grew older we have many different threads out there, and at the age of between 20-30years old, every sort of thread seems to be pivotal. It doesn't mean, that they don't talk ever, whenever they had free time left, they talked, they eat, but not in that sort of way that "Dorian" used to do with his friends and that is the only point "Frank" had been missing in his secured job life. "So what you all were thinking, what he had done with that kind of feeling?".

He went into his room and understood the situation he was going through, he realized that "this is important, don't lose your concentration here", Every sort of thread/connection/relation is different, Every child and parents relation is unlike, every brother to brother connection is mismatched, every brother to sister thread is different, every friend to girlfriend/ boyfriend relation is distinct, even every friend to friend thread is unalike. So he concluded that he was worrying unnecessarily, he knows "Dorian" can't behave like he used to do when he was with his friends, as their talks are of dissimilar levels, which doesn't match my domain and even if I increased my range up to my brother's friend's circle, even though I feel so isolated. Basically "Frank" wants to attain "Dorian" attention i.e He wants that "Dorian" should talk in the same way he used to do with his friends but he stops thinking emotionally and tried to understand the situation instead of reacting immediately.

HENCE, My proposal is that, don't Amalgamate your relations, don't Amalgamate your companions, every sort of friend is different, which is treated differently, we can't share our individual secrets to every alter ego, we have different classmates for banter talk, different bosom friends to share our secrets, different friends to talk wherever we require something, a different friends when we just have to roam here and there, different boon companions when we need notes in exams, a different schoolmate when we want to eat. We treat everyone differently, we can't be the same to everyone i.e we can't talk to our parents like we talk to our friends, so if you want to live happily/blissfully, don't mix/Amalgamate your threads and don't expect from other to be treated in the same he/she treats others.